The family attends Jason's first professional game. |
It’s impossible to imagine a bigger fan
than my father. Where others may laugh along at the appropriate moments, cry on
cue after an emotional rendition of ‘My Heart Will go On’, or sit on the edge
of their seats during the climatic moments of an elimination… my father will
literally give a standing ovation for a well-enthused vocal performance. Right
there in the living room.
“Dad… you don’t have to stand and clap. She
can’t see you.”
“Nah… nah…” he’d say, batting away the emotions “what she just did… she deserves this. That was amazing.”
“Nah… nah…” he’d say, batting away the emotions “what she just did… she deserves this. That was amazing.”
“But this isn’t live. It was taped 14 hours ago in LA.” I’d rebut, as I would inevitably stand and clap with him.
You see, for my father, being supportive has
always been an interactive exercise.
As a child, I was an avid swimmer. Actually, it was more than that… from the ages of 8 to 12, swimming competitively was such a big part of my life that it became one of my defining qualities: eldest child, blue eyes, freckles, pale as a polar bear and a swimmer. In my most dedicated and competitive years, I trained up to twice a day (my hair was wet so often, I’m surprised I didn’t develop a mold problem). I loved being a swimmer, and I loved the thrill of competing… but mostly, I loved that my father sat pool-side at every meet cheering me on.
Since I was always an obedient,
well-behaved child, I relished the fleeting moments of excitement just before
an important race. It was a delicious feeling, that surge of adrenalin
pulsating throughout by pre-pubescent body. I’d often be too nervous for small
chat with my fellow competitors, always wondering if I had trained enough to
beat the girl next to me. That nervous energy would swirl around me right up to
those last seconds before the race… right up to the moment I’d see my father in
the stands: the one adult amongst a sea of parents, standing. Even if I didn’t
think I was capable of winning, I knew he thought I was. My beacon of
encouragement.
Usually, swimmers can’t hear cheering while
racing, but I always swore I could hear my father…. his loud voice rising
against the call of the crowd, fighting its way through the water in my ears.
Whenever I finished a race, before I’d even look at the scoreboard, I’d glance
up at him. And there he’d be… red faced from cheering, a smile across his face,
clapping enthusiastically. What my
daughter just did… she deserves this. That was amazing.
The family’s swimming tradition stopped
after my brothers decided to trade the swimming pool for a basketball court.
Basketball simply made the most sense to them. Not only was it theatrical, it
was hands-down the most logical sport for a family of boys who were all
destined to grow taller that 6’3”.
Being the eldest of the three sons, Shawn
was the first to spearhead the Aucoin basketball legacy. He dove into the sport
with ferocity. He studied his NBA idols, bought the appropriate Nike clothing, and
practiced his ball skills every waking hour. By his early teens, Shawn had somehow
developed such a unique shooting style that every basket he attempted to make
always looked like an air ball… until it wasn’t. Nothing but net. Every. Single.
Time.
“WHAAAT??!? Look at that! How did he do
that??!” my father would cheer court-side, marveling at the miracle that just
happened.
By the end of the game, whether Shawn’s
team had won or lost, my father would be standing… red faced from cheering, a
smile across his face, clapping enthusiastically. What my son just did… he deserves this. That was amazing.
As fate would have it, my brother Jason
possessed an extraordinary amount of dexterity for basketball; a natural,
almost instinctual, talent for the sport. Even at a young age, it was apparent
that being a basketball player would soon become his most obvious defining trait.
His second most defining trait? The father who stood cheering court-side at
every game.
Eventually, Jason was drafted to a semi-professional
league. Though Jason didn’t get paid in those early days, spectators were charged
a nominal $5 to watch the games. It was a fee my father would have paid 10x
over if he had to, he was that excited to watch his son play center court in a
stadium. Fee-paying spectators who weren’t familiar with my father’s cheering
style would often try to move to quieter parts of the stadium. I always mused
that my father seemed immune to their annoyance. There he’d stand when the 4th
quarter buzzer rang, in an almost empty section of the stadium… red faced from
cheering, a smile across his face, clapping enthusiastically. What my son just did… he deserves this. That
was amazing.
Eventually, my father was offered a job to
commentate the home games… a lame attempt by organisers to focus his energy and
manage his enthusiasm. With a microphone in hand, my father tried his best to
keep any screaming to a minimum, as was requested. Most of the time, he
succeeded. He’d calmly call-out fouls, plays, substitutions… all the regular
commentary you’d expect at a game. But when something spectacular happened –
particularly if it involved his son – he’d simply yell whatever word first
popped into his head. Most of the time, he’d cheer using traditional excitables
like “yes!” or “yeehaw!”. But sometimes, in the most magical of commentary
moments, he’d blab some indecipherable word that would have even the players
stop mid-play trying to figure out what was just echoed throughout the stadium.
To this day, Ryan and I swear we heard our father scream “baba
ghanoush!” after a particularly impressive
3-point shot.
It is no coincidence that my father’s
cheering reached an entire new level of extremism when Jason starting playing
professionally. It was as if he was in some sort of competition with those
packed into the giant sport stadium. Vying to be heard, my father would often
lose his voice completely by the end of the 1st quarter. My mother,
who usually sat next to him, always had a splitting headache by the end of the
3rd quarter. And, by the end of the game, both of them would look
like they’d just ran a marathon.
Watching my father get so excited, it would
be easy to misplace his fanaticism as a die-hard basketball fan. He’s not.
Truth be told, he’s not a particularly big swimming fan, or pop music fan
either. But there he is, peppered throughout our lives, proving himself to be
as invested in our special moments as we were. At one point, I remember feeling
that my father only ever cheered when you were good at something. As an adult,
I realize that perhaps it was the other way around. Case in point: my brother
Ryan’s brief foray into the basketball arena.
Wanting desperately to follow in the
successes of his older brothers, Ryan spent days before his first game wearing
his new uniform. When he walked onto the court for the first time as the newest
member of his under 11’s team in a new pair of Air Jordan basketball shoes,
Ryan was immediately fascinated by one unpredicted phenomenon: his new shoes
didn’t slide across the court like his old sneakers. No matter how hard he
tried, or how fast her ran, the rubber on the bottom of his new shoes would squeakily
stop him from sliding. By the time the game started, Ryan was well-and-truly in
his own world, intoxicated by this non-slipping paradox. While his teammates
started to bounce and pass the ball towards the hoop, Ryan would remain at the
other end of the court – running… and coming to a sudden stop… running and
stopping; running and stopping – his Justin Bieber-esque hair blowing in the
air while he ran and flicking across his face with each halt.
I sat next to my father court-side, as he
stood cheering. Sashaying back and forth under the basket, Ryan must have
missed at least a dozen ball passes, but that didn’t seem to dampen my father’s
support.
“The ball, Ryan! Get the ball!” he’d roar
with laughter, genuinely loving the show. Eventually, the other parents joined
in and starting enjoying the spectacle for what it was: the unbridled joy of
playing to have fun. Elevated basketball. At the end of the game, my father stood
red faced from cheering, a smile across his face, clapping enthusiastically. What my son just did… he deserves this. That
was amazing.
As soon as the clock ran out on that first
game, Ryan looked instinctively over at my father. Just like I used to do. In
that moment, my brother received a look from him that made winning or losing
seem irrelevant. I recognized that look as the one he gave me after every race.
It’s also the same look he has driving back from one of Jason’s games, and after
the credits roll on The Voice. His
post-cheer look. A look that genuinely says “we’ve just had the time of my
life”.
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